7 TIPS ON HOW TO MOVE ON FROM A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP
1. ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU TWO ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER
- Accepting the fact that you too are no longer together is a bitter pill to swallow. Many have tried to ignore it, and just look for a rebound kind of love that could fill that void that went missing when their partner broke up with them, who always fail because of the pain they still have in their heart. That rational feeling you have, that your former partner can fill, is something inevitable when moving on. The only way to acknowledge the defeat and failure of the relationship is by accepting the fact that you two are no longer together, and embracing the changes moving forward. It may not sound as appealing as anyone wanted who's going through tough break up, but it is the only way. Denial is one of the stages that one go through when they are in this kind of situation, yet it can be avoided with acceptance. No need for you to be more hurt, you've been through major hell already with the break up and all the issues that comes along with it, so be a little dear to yourself and treat yourself a little bit better by just stopping yourself from hurting even further, and just simply accept the hard truth. I know it is a lot of pain, and it will definitely suck for a while. But eventually, it will suck less. Sooner, once you already accepted the fact that you're no longer in a relationship that you once have cherished, then you're one step better compared to the version of yourself who's drowning themselves into tears that won't even make their partner come back again.
2. FACE YOUR FRIENDS & FAMILY REGARDING WHAT HAPPENED AND MAKE SURE THEY DO UNDERSTAND BOTH SIDES.
- Amending ones issue is a very tough challenge, especially in a relationship who went on that stage wherein both partners are being introduced to the family. That's why it is also important to let your friends and family be well aware of what happened and make sure that they do understand both sides without any hatred because that grudge can be kept, and can be released onto the next guy who would love to give you the undying love that your former partner didn't give. That's why it is only best for you and for your personal interest to let them know that even though the relationship didn't end well, make them wish you an agile process on moving on, and be that kind of support you needed at the moment. Because even though it's unnecessary and unwarranted, that support can become a beacon of you starting fresh in life, and believing that there is still someone who can make you happy out there.
3. TRY TO AVOID THINGS THAT WILL REMIND YOU OF HIM/HER.
- Avoiding things that will remind your of your former partner are definitely hard, even harder if they have been a huge influence in your life. That's why you have to avoid them when you're trying to move on, unless you wanted to have relapse wherein you're in a drive-thru at Mc Donalds and rethink of those kinds of things that you once had when you're still together. Avoiding things that will remind of your previous lover, is very effective in a sense of your taking back the dominance, and being in charge of your life again. This will give you the eventuality of reassuring of yourself the confidence that you once had, that was torn down when you had the break up. This will diminish all those negativities that will remind you of them whenever you come across something that will reminds you of your ex, that can drag you down from the very beginning of you being broken. Ergo, hurt and in a lot of pain again. So it's best if as much as possible, you avoid those things, hobbies, Schedules, Daily routine or even a workout exercises or a friend to be out of your mind. Those things can be regain once you're in a better state but on your moving process, it's for your best interest if you cut ties with them for now.
4. BE THE BETTER VERSION HE/SHE WOULD DIE TO HAVE.
- I'm pretty sure that this is the most subtle thing you'll ever read on this list of tips but it valuable as you're competing with yourself on become better every step of the way, and that's why I think that having that mindset of aiming the better version of yourself is somehow will make you even more hungry to move on further to who you can become as a person. Being in a relationship is all nice and full of love, until the day you both agree that the relationship is a complete whack. Hence, becoming the better version of yourself that they wish for you to become is definitely the biggest revenge you can ever had for your previous lover. If they cannot love you for who you are, then make sure to lift yourself up and make that better version that they wanted, and make sure that they will never have it. People will tend to go back to your life when they see you being in a better state in life, and seeing them trying to crawl back to your life means that you have been doing good at moving on and they're seeing it as a result of you becoming the better version of yourself, and that's why they would love to get back to you again. Never let anything toxic come into your life, and ruin that progress that you've been doing to be shattered. Cut ties to anything that will be on your way of becoming the better version of yourself. Let them lose. Cut the anchor and set sail to becoming the person you always needed to become. By then, you'll see how great you'll turn out.
5. FORGIVE HIM/HER.
- At this stage, you will already determine to yourself if you have already moved on or not because a person who have moved on from other people, events or even things can already reciprocate the fact of what happened happens already, and the only missing piece into the puzzle is your forgiveness no matter what happen. Whether you're on fault or not, forgiveness is vital to someone's piece of mind. That's why it is best for you to forgive your ex regardless of whatever they have done to you in the past for you to completely let go of what happened and be able to start fresh without thinking at the side of your mind about the unclosed chapter of your life. At this point, forgiving your ex lover will bury the hatchet of whatever happens in the past will be forever gone and if ever you come across each other, you will no longer wish them dead or hit by a bus. It is also a good motivation for you being willing to have that chapter to be closed, because you're already on that state of mind where you don't want to acknowledge it anymore, but not ignoring it at the same time, meaning you can talk about, but it's not big deal with you anymore.
6. FORGIVE YOURSELF.
- One last important thing for you to do, for you to completely moved on from your previous relationship, from all the negativities, all the wasted time and effort and heartaches that you felt, all those sleepless nights, those nights where you unknowingly slept because of non-stop tears coming out of your eyes, for those nights you thought of killing yourself, for those nights you felt nothing but pain, you need to forgive yourself. You have to apologize to yourself because you have made yourself suffer with those nights that you have wasted crying. You have to apologize to yourself for not putting yourself as the top priority in your life. After doing so, learn how to forgive yourself that no matter what happen, you'll always lookout for yourself and will never ignore red flags if there is, because it will only lead into the same mistakes that you did that might hurt you along the process. With you forgiving yourself, you are also doing a self healing for your heart and soul. It will make you feel a lot calmer and you will feel that once more, you're in power of yourself and you will no longer let anybody makes you feel Sh*tty ever again.
7. MOVE UP.
- Now that you have accomplished many things that is vital with moving on, it is now the time for you to Move up. I'm pretty sure that many of you are saying "what is moving up for?" Moving up is a sense of maturing while you're moving on to someone. It is different because you're evolving yourself to a version that no one have ever seen before, and that's why moving up to your game, with your decision making, with how you handle things, how you mingle with boys should also be better. Moving up is like upgrading in general. You maintain your moral grounds but at the same time becoming a newer version of yourself who will not be fooled by someone who won't see your worth anymore. Moving up is something you'll do to yourself to prove yourself that you are no longer stuck in the past and no longer be sticking there anymore to feel any grudge or hate. It is the full acceptance of the past, and embracing what's new and what's coming. And when you're done moving up. Then that's the time, you can claim to everyone else, that you have properly moved on without any bitterness in your mind, heart and soul.
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