HOW TO HANDLE DISAGREEMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP


 
 A delicate flower compares a couple's relationship to that. It must be tended to and nurtured in order to avoid withering and death. Talking through your differences will help your relationship grow, so do your best to keep it happy and healthy. If you don't deal with your problems head on, they can fester until they explode or explode into something worse when left alone long enough (like an argument). This is not always easy—especially if your partner has a tendency toward stubbornness or anger-management issues—but it's definitely worth doing.


Talk it through.

This is the most crucial phase of settling a dispute, but it's also one of the most challenging. In order for everyone to put their differences behind them as quickly as possible, you need to discuss what happened, how you feel about it, and what you want to happen next. After that, you should come up with a plan of action together. In the absence of any misunderstandings or miscommunications, try not to let anyone off the hook by avoiding eye contact or ignoring them until after everyone has calmed down enough for conversation once more. If there were any misunderstandings or miscommunications, let your partner know so they are aware of where they stand in advance.



Don't just let it go.

Addressing the issue right away is crucial when you are having an argument. Don't let it fester or accumulate to the point where you erupt. If there is conflict once a month or less, that is acceptable; however, if there is conflict every day, your partner may start to feel ignored or taken for granted. 

Consider avoiding arguments altogether by ensuring that both partners are willing and able to communicate honestly about their needs and expectations in the relationship at all times, in addition to addressing disagreements as soon as they arise (and not letting them fester).



Don't shut down.

  • Don't ignore the issue.

  • Don't be defensive.

  • Don't be passive aggressive, and don’t make accusations that are not true (for example: “You never get off work at 5 p.m., so we have no time to go out!”).



Be kind to each other.

Don't be mean to each other.

Don't say hurtful things to each other.

Don't be cruel to each other or sarcastic, even when you think it's funny or appropriate in some circumstances (for instance, if someone is being childish).



Practice apologizing first.

Apologizing first is a great way to show your partner that you’re willing to take responsibility for your actions.

If you've done something wrong, the other person might not want to hear your apology, but it's important to apologize. However, expressing your regret first before going into detail about what happened in the past tense demonstrates your willingness to own up to any wrongdoing between the two of you. Your relationship will become more trusting as a result, and both parties will develop respect for one another's thoughts and beliefs. *



Meet in the middle.

To reach a compromise is one of the most crucial things to do when handling a dispute. If reaching a compromise isn't possible, you should look for a different option that will satisfy both of you. 

If someone disagrees with your choice, go one step further in resolving their issues or complaints by outlining why this course of action benefits both of you—and make sure they comprehend why it was required as well!



Remember that hurt feelings can come from things that are not directly related to the argument at hand.

It is crucial to keep in mind that things not directly related to the current argument can cause hurt feelings. It's possible for your partner to become upset over something completely unrelated, such as an interaction with a friend or family member after returning from work, if you and your partner have been fighting about something that occurred before today's argument.

Similarly, it's also possible for someone who has argued with someone (including yourself) over something connected to the argument itself but not necessarily directly associated with what caused said argument in the first place; examples include driving home together after work hours or disclosing personal information about each other to friends and family who have no business knowing that information anyhow!



Address the issues before bringing up old history.

It's best to avoid bringing up the past when trying to resolve a dispute. This means you ought to refrain from bringing up old disputes, grudges, or complaints, whether they were voiced before or not. Focus on what needs to change in order for things to get better rather than on how bad things were before (or worse yet—during) if you need to make your point about why something isn't working out for either of you anymore. If a conflict recurs down the road at a time when both parties are more emotionally connected than they were at the time of the initial incident, it can be resolved then, but only after some time has passed and thought has been given to what has led up to this point. This will help prevent future conflicts from reoccurring because, at the very least, both parties now have a better understanding of one another's personalities, so there won't be any surprises when they recur later on. "



Admit defeat when the issue is trivial enough that you don't feel strongly about it, and be willing to let your partner win an argument that is important to him or her.

Admitting defeat when the matter is minor enough that you don't care very much about it, and being willing to let your partner win a debate that is significant to them. 

You don't always have to win a debate. In fact, you'll probably end up feeling frustrated and angry yourself if you succeed and put them in a situation they didn't want to be in. 

There are no winners or losers in these types of situations; instead, just focus on maintaining a good relationship with each other rather than trying so hard to fight over every little thing all the time. If this sounds like something you'd like your partner not to do, then make sure they know how important it is that they don't try this strategy with you. "



Ask yourself if you are fighting fair, and if not, step up your game with less inflammatory rhetoric, a gentler tone of voice and more interest in hearing your partner's point of view rather than belittling it.

  • Work on being more patient with each other by anticipating what the other might need before they ask for it.


You can have conflict with someone and still get along well with them most of the time.

Even if you don't agree with someone, you can remain friends. Even after a disagreement, you can still love someone. Additionally, conflicts can arise even when you're in a close relationship with someone. 

The important thing to remember is that when we disagree with someone, it doesn't mean we no longer like them or won't assist them if they are in need; it just means there are times when we prefer our way to theirs.




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